Today I was reminded of how important it is to appreciate the days you have been given. I don’t do that enough. A friend of mine came by my work today and made the mention that you can find negative in everything easily. But, how hard it its to find the good things in life. Why don’t we try to look at the positive things instead of the negative? Habit? Training? Chemicals in our brain? Whatever the reason, we need to make more of an effort to look at the positive things in life.
When we try to look at the positive things our lives tend to get better. The circumstances may not change but we change. Our outlook changes on the circumstances around us. I know that I need to get better at that. Just this morning my husband and I had an argument because he was trying to think positively on a situation and I was not having it. I just wanted to stay in my own mindset and not let him change me. I didn’t want to admit that he was right, and I was wrong. I don’t like admitting when I am wrong, not just because I am a woman. But because growing up it was used against me. If I was wrong I wasn’t ever given the chance to live it down. It was a weapon that was used to damage my self-confidence. If I was wrong about something, my family never trusted me again in that regard again.
I know that my husband is not like my family in that regard and that most people will give you a second chance. Most normal people don’t hold grudges forever. Don’t let your past determine your future. Just because someone did something to you in the past doesn’t mean everyone else you meet will do the same. I know I have struggled in this area of allowing people to have second chances and not letting their past failures determine their future with you.
Be Strong and Courageous