As I was Reading today, I came across a quote that is so needed in everyone’s life. It is a rule in Dale Carnegie’s book, How to Stop Worry and Start Living. His rule is, “Let’s not imitate others. Let’s find ourselves & be ourselves.”
There are so many people that try to act like someone they are not. I know I have done that very thing for a large part of my life. I still have days when I feel like my personality is too much. I’m too excited or I’m too XYZ thing. We as humans feel like if we don’t measure up to some expectation that our culture decides for us we are failures. It doesn’t matter what side of the spectrum you are on. If you don’t fit in the box that society decides for you, you don’t belong.
As a Christian, I am sometimes judged based on what others think that Christianity should look like. There are some who would say I evangelize too much or I don’t do enough evangelizing. I know that there are so many controversies about religion or sexual identity, etc. I am not here to argue for or against anything. I am simply stating what I have experienced and what I have felt. Everyone is entitled to their opinion.
Anyway, now that I have made sure to let you know that this post is simply to write my thoughts on this topic we can continue. Like I said, society tries to make everyone fit some sort of stereotype. If you grow up in a small town and don’t fit the mold of what small town folk feel like you should fit into, you are shunned. Those who would try to associate with you would be ridiculed. If you come from a big city and you are different you have your own set of struggles trying to find your place.
I am not saying that trying to find a place to belong or fit into is wrong. I am saying that we need to treat everyone with respect. The late Martin Luther King Jr. wanted everyone to be treated fairly and with respect. No matter if we are being treated fairly or not we need to make sure we are being true to ourselves. I’m not saying we don’t need to improve ourselves or not challenge ourselves to become better. I am just saying that we don’t need to try to be someone we are not. When we try to fit into something or be someone we were not meant to be we can become depressed, angry, or confused. We may not know why we feel that way but over time if the root problem isn’t dealt with, I have seen people decide to take their own life. A couple were dear friends of mine and I am deeply hurt by there loss.
In short, I believe that we were all put on this earth for a purpose. When we try to be someone we were not meant to be we lose sight of what our purpose is. Everyone is uniquely gifted at something and only you can do that something the way you can. Don’t worry about trying to do what someone else has. Do what you were meant to do. Be who you were meant to be.
Be Strong and Courageous